bah i haven't blogged in quite a while... but list of things to blog about has been growing longer. so many things happening...
syf.
bah it was sad i guess... felt really bad for hx. how she has put in so much effort and not be rewarded... always wanted to nominate her for the outstanding leader thingie but when i finally got around to actively inquiring abt it -.- it was over. but yea the band leaders have been amazing :) as for the gold... ahh i guess i myself was mentally prepared, even though i still harbored hope. was more afraid of the blow it'd deal our batch spirit more than anything else... but the dinner after that proved that my fears unjustified. and besides... i had a sanctuary to retreat to for consolation :) a new fantasy trilogy!!! a sanctuary that pung is cruelly withholding from me sobz. denying me my peaceeee evil pung. lolz will prob get the third book from him tmr and end my torment. aiya ok la at least can do some work first.
choir.
i'm playing for one of my old choir member's wedding!! playing for a wedding is so gratifying. to be part of something so joyous by adding to the beauty of the event is simply just... ... there's no word for it. lolz i'm sure there is but bah brain is not working. just had a nice breakfast of mee pok seeyaosokyao with sugar cane and a bite of magnum ice cream. so yup brain processes definitely slowed down in liew of the spread of lazy contentment throughout my body. talk nonsense.
dad.
there's so many things involving dad but i'll just zoom in on one that i find really ridiculous. which is abt the way he says that he's not ready, when mum ask him to gets baptised. and the reason? he's not touched enough. he's not touched enough?! i'm really wondering... what is he waiting for? another africa incident? he experienced one miracle... most people don't even experience any. and he is still waiting for another... i'm amazed at his inertia, his blindness and his audacity. in light of so many pull factors, he still won't do it. he wants to be touched... but faith doesn't just fill one's soul in the snap of the fingers. there's an amount of work that must be put in to build up the faith... really just lip service in saying that he wants it.
manners vs morals
i've had a lottttt of chances to think abt this recently. esp cos dad keeps bringing up the fact about respect, talking back, social etiquette and all that crap. seriously... crap. courtesy is such a strong barrier to truth. the respect that elders demand only deters communication. i mean, if we are forced to keep in mind that we cannot be rude, and we cannot be seen as talking back, how do we express our disagreements? so many things to keep in mind... might as well just shut up. and there goes the communication. the adults always say things along the lines of "if they want to talk, by all means. but i will not tolerate rudeness." bah. it's exactly when a child is being rude that he has the most to communicate. esp in the situation that things get heated and a child that is not normally rude is being rude. it is in that moment that a child has gone past the barriers of all the communication, and is saying something that is truly worth listening to. when a child says to an elder, "u're unreasonable. u're arrogant. u think u are right all the time.", does the child say it just for spite? obviously, these are resentments that have been growing for a long time and it's only now that the opportunity has come for the child to express it. and what do adults do? egos bruised by people who are supposed to be subservient, they shut off and they lash back. no wonder then that communication between social classes are always strained.
etiquette clouds the true meaning of being polite. so many things to remember and take note of, and we forget what's the purpose of manners. if a person needs help, help. if the person can do it himself, then he doesn't need help. duh. so why must a guy help a girl open the door? gentlemanliness... the external facade that guys weave for girls to swoon over. what a silly concept. all that emphasis on gentlemanliness in the light of such strong feministic campaigns is just laughable. on one hand, women want to be seen as equal to men. on the other, women want men to treat them like they're the weaker, or shall we say fairer, sex. being polite just means going out to help others. if someone needs help, then we lend our help. why must the distinction be made if its a guy or girl? if girls do tend to need more help (lolz emphasis on the 'if', cos i do vaguely sorta believe in feministic ideals), so be it but it does not mean that we gotta go down all the way just to specially help them open a door, or let them walk through first; treating them like glass. so degrading.
haiz ultimately the manners that we speak of should always be governed by morals... and not just blind ostentatiousness. of course, we're bound always by social decorum and in light of that, digging our noses in public will always not be condoned, no matter how hygenically it's done. but in these ways where shows of politeness do more harm than good, we should really reflect on our actions.
Name: Foo Guo Zhong Melvyn
Age: 19+
Affiliations: MSHS (Pri), Rosyth, RI, RJC, SFX (LoG)
Bday: 14th Nov
Email: mel_protoss@hotmail.com
bah i haven't blogged in quite a while... but list of things to blog about has been growing longer. so many things happening...
syf.
bah it was sad i guess... felt really bad for hx. how she has put in so much effort and not be rewarded... always wanted to nominate her for the outstanding leader thingie but when i finally got around to actively inquiring abt it -.- it was over. but yea the band leaders have been amazing :) as for the gold... ahh i guess i myself was mentally prepared, even though i still harbored hope. was more afraid of the blow it'd deal our batch spirit more than anything else... but the dinner after that proved that my fears unjustified. and besides... i had a sanctuary to retreat to for consolation :) a new fantasy trilogy!!! a sanctuary that pung is cruelly withholding from me sobz. denying me my peaceeee evil pung. lolz will prob get the third book from him tmr and end my torment. aiya ok la at least can do some work first.
choir.
i'm playing for one of my old choir member's wedding!! playing for a wedding is so gratifying. to be part of something so joyous by adding to the beauty of the event is simply just... ... there's no word for it. lolz i'm sure there is but bah brain is not working. just had a nice breakfast of mee pok seeyaosokyao with sugar cane and a bite of magnum ice cream. so yup brain processes definitely slowed down in liew of the spread of lazy contentment throughout my body. talk nonsense.
dad.
there's so many things involving dad but i'll just zoom in on one that i find really ridiculous. which is abt the way he says that he's not ready, when mum ask him to gets baptised. and the reason? he's not touched enough. he's not touched enough?! i'm really wondering... what is he waiting for? another africa incident? he experienced one miracle... most people don't even experience any. and he is still waiting for another... i'm amazed at his inertia, his blindness and his audacity. in light of so many pull factors, he still won't do it. he wants to be touched... but faith doesn't just fill one's soul in the snap of the fingers. there's an amount of work that must be put in to build up the faith... really just lip service in saying that he wants it.
manners vs morals
i've had a lottttt of chances to think abt this recently. esp cos dad keeps bringing up the fact about respect, talking back, social etiquette and all that crap. seriously... crap. courtesy is such a strong barrier to truth. the respect that elders demand only deters communication. i mean, if we are forced to keep in mind that we cannot be rude, and we cannot be seen as talking back, how do we express our disagreements? so many things to keep in mind... might as well just shut up. and there goes the communication. the adults always say things along the lines of "if they want to talk, by all means. but i will not tolerate rudeness." bah. it's exactly when a child is being rude that he has the most to communicate. esp in the situation that things get heated and a child that is not normally rude is being rude. it is in that moment that a child has gone past the barriers of all the communication, and is saying something that is truly worth listening to. when a child says to an elder, "u're unreasonable. u're arrogant. u think u are right all the time.", does the child say it just for spite? obviously, these are resentments that have been growing for a long time and it's only now that the opportunity has come for the child to express it. and what do adults do? egos bruised by people who are supposed to be subservient, they shut off and they lash back. no wonder then that communication between social classes are always strained.
etiquette clouds the true meaning of being polite. so many things to remember and take note of, and we forget what's the purpose of manners. if a person needs help, help. if the person can do it himself, then he doesn't need help. duh. so why must a guy help a girl open the door? gentlemanliness... the external facade that guys weave for girls to swoon over. what a silly concept. all that emphasis on gentlemanliness in the light of such strong feministic campaigns is just laughable. on one hand, women want to be seen as equal to men. on the other, women want men to treat them like they're the weaker, or shall we say fairer, sex. being polite just means going out to help others. if someone needs help, then we lend our help. why must the distinction be made if its a guy or girl? if girls do tend to need more help (lolz emphasis on the 'if', cos i do vaguely sorta believe in feministic ideals), so be it but it does not mean that we gotta go down all the way just to specially help them open a door, or let them walk through first; treating them like glass. so degrading.
haiz ultimately the manners that we speak of should always be governed by morals... and not just blind ostentatiousness. of course, we're bound always by social decorum and in light of that, digging our noses in public will always not be condoned, no matter how hygenically it's done. but in these ways where shows of politeness do more harm than good, we should really reflect on our actions.